DATING CAMPUS GIRLS EXPENSIVE; GUYS RESORT TO CHEAP PROSTITUTES

BY KAMUKAMA ISAAC

At first sight, Adrian (not real names), a social science student gives the impression of a serial dater. He is tall, posses well-chiseled facial features and an appealing light skin complexion that would leave every guy in his vicinity both envious and threatened. You will definitely think that this hunk finds it a walkover when it comes to the dating world and that campus girls willingly throw themselves at him. Alas, he wishes this was so!

“I had been in a couple of intimate relationships with some of those campus girls that ended up straining me financially. I felt I could not get a girl of my standards without having to unnecessarily pester my parents for money time and again,” he laments. “I had become a provider of sorts to these girls’ astronomical demands: I had to look for money for the next outing; money to fuel the borrowed car; take them to expensive eat-outs and I was forced to live large just to make an impression,” he appends.

The question would now be: “How did he meet his conjugal obligations then?”

The answer is from soliciting the services of prostitutes!

He has been visiting these women who ply the “world’s oldest profession” for a year now and does not expect to stop anytime soon until he has found a decent yet frugal woman to whom he will commit. Of course, that will be many years from now.

“Well at first I was tense. I could not imagine myself sleeping with those women—that was for the desperate. But a couple of drinks prior to the ‘visit’ calmed my nerves,” he recounts when a colleague proposed the possibility of visiting hookers.

Since then, Adrian has found solace in these women and does not expect to engage in a more financially demanding relationship; His favorite spots are Speke road and Kabalagala since those spots and the women there match his standards. He has been a patron for some time that even some of these women know him by name.

Adrian is not alone. He is just a jot of the many campus guys who have been seeking the services of these ‘women of the night’ as they are popularly known. The majority of who decry the money-minded attitude possessed by campus girls.

“How can I spend my money on campus girls when am not even sure about the success of the relationship,” retorts Bwambale, a 3^rd year engineering student. “I would rather sacrifice less than ten thousand and get ‘serviced’ than spend my entire paltry pocket money on a campuser who will eventually disappoint me. Besides you get a variety of women to chose from—big and small, young and old, brown and dark” he furtively reasons.

Asked how long it will take him to think of yet another service, he answers with a derisive frown on his face, “May be three weeks.”

He has been engaging in this nocturnal activity with a clandestine approach—he does not want any of his colleagues to know as he fears the  prospect of being mocked ‘as not being man enough to lure a campus girl to his bed’.

“I have been invading wandegeya for the cheap service, “he says. “See, coming to university marked the first time I set foot in Kampala as I had spent my entire life in kasese. I revered campus girls so I was timid when the thought of approaching them popped-up in my mind, “he confesses.

So how did he start to engage in the habit?

“I was curious to verify the claims of my course-mates that there were prostitutes in wandegeya. I thought I was just going to explore and confirm,” he recalls.

But just like all other notable men who have fallen prey to the charm of women, so did Bwambale. He reluctantly resisted the pulling of these women and he fell for their vulgar yet sexually appealing words.

As they say, “the rest is history”.

IS RESORTING TO PROSTITUTION THE ANSWER?

“That requires a rhetoric answer: NO” boldly answers Steven (not real names), a Christian who fellowships with the afro-stone Christian group.

“They are under bondage and need to repent lest they are cast in the chasm of brimstone and sulphur,” he is quick to warn.

“Even if I was not Christian, I would never think of engaging in the unchaste habit. Who does not know the dire consequences associate with prostitution to those who engage in it—buyers and sellers alike”?

But Bob has a more secular approach.

He says: “It’s up to them. Getting a good girl who is not interested in money is hard. Even if she is plain looking and does not seem to be interested in money at first, the habit will eventually grow in your relationship like a cancer.”

SOME OF THE CONSEQUENCES OF THE HABIT

Receding low self esteem; The majority of the partakers always prefer anonymity since they are filled with guilty and only are few will have the audacity to boost about taking part in the habit.

Most of these fellows go secretively and do not want to think about their activity after they satisfy their conjugal desires. To most, sleeping with a prostitute is a sign of inability to convince a girl to become a potential partner.

Perceiving women as objects of sex; Most of those who take part in the habit are bound to perceive women as objects of sex who have to be bought to satisfy their lustful desires. Such guys are bound to demean them and will have problems in engaging in courtship and dating since their ‘patience’ with women would have waned long before.

Sexually transmitted diseases; Most of the guys will claim that they use protection in their quest for ‘satisfaction’. But there have been claims that the condoms used are of poor quality and coupled by the poor handling, are as good as nothing. So many reports have emerged claiming that most of the cheap condoms are defective and the virus can take advantage of this to traverse through the piece of latex.

Loss of property; Not once, not twice or even thrice have I heard men complaining about loss of their items like wallets and mobile phones after hiring the services of these scoundrels. These women are said to be sharp when it comes to pick pocketing. They are known to frisk the body of the unsuspecting client when he is immersed into the act of pleasure. On discovering  this, most clients will engage in a scuffle to retrieve what is theirs whereas some will walk away imprecating their decision to take part, this out of a fear  of causing a scene when fighting for what belongs to them.

Wastage of money; Majority of those soliciting for the service of these women claim that it is frugal to have casual sex than to engage in a serious relationship with a campus girl.

But casual sex being that addictive, perpetual engagement in the habit will occur and since many believe it is so convenient, they will end up visiting these hookers continuously until they run broke.